The energy/frequency we put out through our thoughts and emotions mirrors back to us. Our relationships reflect what we think and feel within ourselves. Many times, these inner sensations may be unconscious to us.
Do you know you have the power to change your inner reality? This then changes what occurs around us.
So, we can react with anger, avoidance or blame the other person. We can see ourselves as victims. Fear, anger, illness, and suffering haunt our every step.
“What you think, you become. What you feel, you attract.” Buddha
3 Methods for Dissolving Victim Patterns
1 Journaling
Draw the triangle diagram
Write down victim or rescuer or abuser relationships you experience most for yourself
Write down victim or rescuer or abuser relationships you experience most with others
2 How to Dissolve Your Victim Patterns with Self-Help Focusing
Note: You may find the Focusing also works for dissolving Rescuer and Abuser patterns.
Focusing – Developed by psychotherapist Eugene Gendlin in 1960’s for therapy. You can learn to use it on your own. Adapt it to become more aware of your victim/shadow patterns.
Focusing involves holding attention on sensations in your body. Breathe into the sensation. Be open, nonjudgmental. Keep coming back to the sensation when your mind wanders. Pay attention to your intuitive knowing’s, images or intuitive sensing.
Develop the ability to spend 15 – 20 minutes at a time.
Like any skill Focusing takes time to develop.
Gendlin’s Six Step Focusing Meditative Self-Help Process
1 Clearing a Space: Letting go of all outside cares. Creating a quiet place inside ourselves. Breathe. Notice tension and release it with your breath.
2 Getting a Felt Sense: Ask open ended question. How does this victim/shadow pattern feel like inside my body? Where do I feel it the most? No mind analysis. Wait until you get an intuitive or body sense.
3 Finding a Handle: Wait until you get words, a sensation or an image. You sense may be vague at first.
4 Resonating and Checking: Take the word(s), sensation or image and ask is this it. Keep sensing and checking until you know, see or feel it is the right “fit.”
5 Asking: If necessary, keep asking open ended questions. Keep going back to steps 2,3 & 4 until there is a right “fit.” You feel a temporary increase in tension. There may be a release of tension. Insight or emotions may arise.
6 Receiving: Through out breathe deep into your belly. Breath creates space for Grace and intuitive solutions. Solutions beyond our thinking mind.
Note: Keep practicing Focusing until the victim/shadow pattern eventually dissolves. It will probably be gradual. Notice the small steps with gratitude.
We all have 64 DNA codes. Within our unconscious and bodies, we each have victim patterns. 11 personal out of 64 possible shadow frequencies. These patterns, mental and emotional, rise out of our anger and fears. We express and encounter them through drama and relationship conflicts.
Richard Rudd in his book the “Gene Keys” explains the 64 victim/shadow patterns. You can receive a free profile identifying your specific 11 shadow patterns. You will also receive an intro how to begin to read the profile https://genekeys.com/free-profile/
When we accept and begin dissolving our shadows, our suffering lessens. Also, our gifts and siddhis (flowering of gifts) start emerging.
“Embrace the Shadow, Release the Gift, Embody the Siddhi.” – Richard Rudd
We also feel the effect of the fears of collective humanity. So to, we experience some aspects of the 64 shadows/victim patterns of humanity.
3 How to Dissolve Your DNA Victim Patterns with the Gene Keys?
Deprogram your DNA of lower frequency patterns of victim/shadow. Then eventually reprogram with the higher frequencies of your gifts and siddhis
Victim patterns dissolve using three tools. Use these tools to take action: Awareness; Compassion; and Transmutation (ACT)
Journal – Write your impressions in a notebook
1 Awareness
Notice when you fall into victim (recall the details)
What event occurred? (i.e. disagreement with a partner)
What did you feel? (i.e. anger or loss of energy)
What thoughts did you have? (i.e. I am never listened to or I better just be quiet)
2 Compassion
Be patient with yourself (it takes ongoing effort over time)
Accept and embrace your shadow like it’s a small child
See how your victim no longer serves you
Notice the repeating emotions and beliefs that give the victim/shadow life
3 Transformation
Call in the Divine Light/Higher Power or the Gift related to the victim/shadow
Notice where you feel the shadow sensations in your body
Focus your attention and keep breathing into that area i.e. your belly
Stay focusing and breathing until you notice some change
Note: Repeat the tool which works for you each time the victim/shadow appears. Divine Light with intent begins to dissolve our shadows.
See Also more ways of overcoming relationship conflict
Michael David Lawrience is the author of Emotional Health: The Secret from Drama, Trauma, and Pain His book provides ways to improve emotional health, ease pain and, stress, heal physical and emotional abuse, and spiritual awakening. See the book on Amazon. https://www.amazon.com/Emotional-Health-Secret-Freedom-Trauma/dp/0615479170
I wrote this book as a legacy of my inner emotional and spiritual journey of self-growth. I teach people how to heal trauma and transform consciousness.
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Note: You may find the Focusing also works for dissolving Rescuer and Abuser patterns.