Most of us have a wounded inner child. Our inner child lives in our psyche. He or she looks the way we did at the age of 3, 4 or 5. That child comes into the world with some degree of innocent and a curiosity for life.
What is an Inner Child?
Our childhood consists of both positive and negative experiences. From this we form conscious and unconscious beliefs. This includes feelings of guilt, self-worth and shame.
Who is Your Wounded Inner Child?
We can recognize our inner child through our body and emotions. Most of all this child lives in our unconscious. Our wounded inner child shows itself when we become emotionally triggered. Our child reacts and blame others in our relationships. This child runs our lives instead of our adult selves.
Our child is in the driver’s seat. We may wonder why our lives contain so much drama. The child loves drama. It feeds on it like ice cream.
Does your inner child feel loved, recognized, confident? So does he/she feel unheard, unloved, and unseen. This child feels trapped, sad, and lonely inside of a dark, non-nurturing world. This feeling of lack of love passes down through our family bloodline. Then our children inherit this DNA.
How did your inner child feel in your birth family? As an adult, which aspects of inner child do you recognize?
We have three energy centers, “chakras.” These correspond to our stomach, abdomen and pelvis. These carry a great deal of the pain of the inner child. These chakras carry our fears, anxieties and sorrow. These feelings make up the life of an unloved wounded inner child.
First chakra, pelvis, relates to survival issues. Second chakra where our inner child mostly lives, contains unresolved issues. The issues emotional, sexual, control and self-esteem. The second chakra lies below belly button. Third chakra relates to our sense of personal identity and power.
Our inner child has a whole body of emotions. If wounded and powerless, our child searches outside ourselves for love and esteem. We may experience an emotional reaction or have our “buttons” pushed by a situation or person. This is the child’s response to old unhealed emotional wounds.
An inner child in pain reaches out for the love they yearn for. Conditions attached to that love may mean experiences of abuse, control, or power. Our inner child feels the rage, anger, hurt, sadness, or hopelessness. Sometimes it just wants to give up and die.
If ignored, our wounded inner child hides in a corner of our psyche until something triggers his or her pain. Their emotional reactions can sabotage our success. The child’s intent differs from our conscious intent. The child reacts as our main saboteur.
Conclusion: Next articles will describe ways to heal your inner child.
When we heal our inner child, our next generation no longer inherit the wounding. Healing our inner child heals the child of our children and our children’s children.
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