This article explains another aspect of wounding; the Inner Victim Child.
Previous article described 4 aspects of wounded inner child.
- King/Queen (Tantrums)
- Manipulator (Control)
- Good Boy/Girl (Codependent)
- Rebel (Acting Out)
Inner Victim Child
Do you blame yourself, consciously or sub-consciously, for your childhood abuse? This includes physical, emotional abuse and neglect from a parent or parents.
To heal we have a choice. The hero’s journey from shame to victim to survivor to thriver takes time. My journey took years.
We can become aware when we fall into the “victim pit.” We learn to reparent ourselves.
Becoming Aware of Our Inner Victim
- Blaming others for your life
- Envying others circumstance in life
- Feeling victimized by others
- Giving your power away
- Sinking into the pit/swamp of self-pity
How Do You Create Reality?
How do you stay stuck in your victim patterns?
We can react with anger, avoidance or blame others. Do we keep falling into the inner victim child swamp? Then anger, fear, illness and suffering haunt our every step.
The energy/frequency through our thoughts and emotions mirrors back to us. Our relationships reflect what we think and feel within. These inner sensations may be unconscious to us.
Do you know you have the power to change your inner reality? This then changes what occurs around us.
“What you think, you become. What you feel, you attract.” Buddha
We have 64 DNA codes. Richard Rudd, the “Gene Keys” explains the 64 victim/shadow patterns. We each have 11 personal shadow victim patterns. Receive a free profile for your patterns https://genekeys.com/free-profile/
These victim patterns, mental and emotional, rise out of our anger and fears. We express them through emotional drama and relationship conflicts. We also feel the effect of the fears of collective humanity.
When we accept and begin dissolving our shadows, our suffering lessens. Also, our gifts/talents start emerging.
How to Dissolve Our DNA Victim Patterns
Richard Rudd gives 3 tools for dissolving victim patterns.
Awareness; Compassion; Transmutation (ACT – Use the tools to take action)
Journal – Write your impressions in a notebook
Notice details when you fall into inner victim child
What event occurred? (Conflict with a partner)
What did you feel? (Anger or loss of energy)
What thoughts did you have? (I am never heard or I better just be quiet)
Be patient with yourself. (It takes time)
Accept and embrace your shadow. Imagine holding it like small child. This is your inner child.
Notice the repeating emotions and beliefs that give the victim/shadow life
Call in the Divine Light/Higher Power or the Gift related to the victim/shadow
Notice where you feel the shadow sensations in your body
Focus your attention and keep breathing into that area i.e. your belly
Stay focusing and breathing until you notice some change
Note: Repeat the 3 tools each time the victim/shadow appears.
It took me a long time for Awareness of my victim. I discovered Compassion and Transformation later.
Next Article I describe a Meditation. It uses intent and breath for healing your child daily.