Emotionally Wounded Inner Child: Does It Now Run Our Lives?
Like most of you I had no idea I had an wounded inner child until in my early 40’s motivated by a series of unhappy relationships, I gained an interest in my inner child and the possibility of healing him.
I grew up as an invisible lost child in a family with a person with alcohol use disorder. So I repeated the same trauma in my intimate relationships whenever I felt threatened, I retreated into my self without ever expressing my feelings. Some of my partners did the same.
My wounded inner child remained unknown to me until my partner at the time told me she had a therapist who worked with healing her inner child. This and most of all the pain of being unable to express my feelings or needs in relationships motivated me to contact this child. I started by reading John Bradshaw’s, Reclaiming and Championing Your Inner Child.
Wounded Inner Child
Our wounded inner child reveals its self to us in the patterns of trauma and pain, which triggered by relationship conflicts keep reappearing in our lives, unchanging. The question we can then ask ourselves, who runs my life, me the adult or the wounded child within?
I have another question. How many men like me unconsciously have their women carry their feelings for them? In other words, as men we numb and avoid feelings and thus allow our partners to express them for us.
Over time and coaching by my wife, I have learned to identify and express my feelings easier rather then allowing my inner child to wallow in powerlessness and drag me down into the pit of hopelessness which I experienced as a child.
So my wounded inner child ran my life until I learned to embrace him. By staying present with feelings as they arise, they began to transform on their own and a peace fills me. I do this more and more now. I choose to take charge rather than allowing my inner child to sit in the driver’s seat of the emotional train. When our wounded inner child heals, we heal.
When will you choose to understand your childhood programming, recognize your repeating life patterns, begin to acknowledge your pain, and embrace your feelings and your wounded inner child?
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ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Michael David Lawrience is the author of Emotional Health: The Secret from Drama, Trauma, and Pain His book provides ways for improving emotional health, easing pain and stress, healing physical and emotional abuse, and spiritual awakening. See book on Amazon https://www.amazon.com/Emotional-Health-Secret-Freedom-Trauma/dp/0615479170
Michael as a previous Residential and Self-Esteem Coach and Mentor has over 15 years’ experience teaching teen’s self-awareness, self-esteem, and self-reliance. See eBook Self Esteem- A Teen’s Guide for Girls https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B009L4JLMO This book is valuable for women also.
Michael offers Bowen Therapy in person in Sedona, Arizona for easing physical and emotional pain. https://www.emotionalhealthtips.com/bowen-therapy-sedona/
Michael also conducts personalized hiking tours in Sedona for emotional and spiritual breakthroughs.