The higher your oxytocin, the higher your happiness and well-being, at least for women says Paul Zak, PhD, a researcher.
Why do men and women handle stress differently?
When stress strikes cortisol and epinephrine hormones elevate blood sugar and blood pressure for both men and women. The brain also releases oxytocin which counters the other two hormones, producing relaxation. Oxytocin may influence our ability to bond with others.
Researcher Shelly Taylor, Ph.D. finds females under stress nurture themselves and their young – tend – and form bonds with other women – befriend.
Women, as a whole, tend to focus on looking after other people’s needs which can create more stress for them as a nonworking behavior. This, however, orients them to the value of relationships and female bonding.
Men, on the other hand, with smaller amounts of oxytocin, lean toward fight or flight response when it comes to stress. They either bottle the stress up or they fight back because they concentrate on competition and outer performance to set the pace of their lives. To win regardless of the cost to their relationships can create incredible stress and physical health issues for men.
In my experience, men steer clear of expressing their feelings or stress with other men. Perhaps we fear feeling vulnerable and possibly open to attack. So to relieve stress we seek escape activities such as golf or football games where we can release stress while still enjoying the company of other men.
In conclusion, loss of relationships can be the greatest stressor for women while fear of lack of performance haunts men. In addition, with less oxytocin and a different paradigm of relating leaves men with less capability for stress reduction than women.
As a man or woman what do you do to handle chronic stress?
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Michael David Lawrience is the author of Emotional Health: The Secret from Drama, Trauma, and Pain. His book provides ways for improving emotional health, easing pain and stress, healing physical and emotional abuse, and spiritual awakening. See book on Amazon
Michael as a previous Residential and Self-Esteem Coach and Mentor has over 15 years’ experience teaching teen’s self-awareness, self-esteem, and self-reliance. Self Esteem- A Teen’s Guide for Girls This book is valuable for women also. See book on Amazon
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