May 21, 2024
Inner Child Healing

Critical Self-Talk: Challenges How to Better Reparent Your Inner Child

Critical Self-Talk

How do you reparent your inner child to recover from critical self talk?

Critical Self-Talk

Your inner child carries the burden of your wounds from your childhood.

I share my journey of discovering and healing my inner child trauma. Many practical tools release the suffering of trauma.

The energy of mindfulness is the salve that will recognize and heal the child within. Thich Nhat Hanh Zen Master

Inner Child 

My inner child ran my life. Unknown he did this invisible under the surface of my consciousness. He had control for almost half my life.

My inner child ran my life through drama and trauma. I kept repeating the same stories in my mind of suffering.  

My inner child carries the wounds from growing up with an emotionally distant father addicted to alcohol.

However, I am grateful beyond measure to my father. He gave me freedom to explore my innocence and curiosity. In the groves of maple trees, we played fantasy cowboy games. At the age of ten, I played with my younger brother for hours. We did this for two summers, during school break.

As a man, I never related to my inner child. In fact, I knew nothing about having an inner child. In addition, when I studied psychology at college no one ever mentioned the inner child.

Inner Child Work

My inner child remained invisible and unknown to me until my early forties. My partner at the time told me she had a therapist. This therapist who worked with healing her child. I begin learning about my child. Desiring knowing and expressing my emotion drove me. I also had little idea about my needs in relationships.

I started reading John Bradshaw’s, Reclaiming and Championing Your Inner Child.

A few years later, I began teaching my system of hands-on energy healing. I included healing the inner child. At this time, I realized the intensity of pain my wounded child carried since childhood.

Over a decade later, my wife, Lyn, assisted me by refusing to accept being my emotional body. Our inner child connects to our emotions. I numbed and avoided my emotions for two thirds of my life. Therefore, instead of feeling and expressing my emotions, I had my wife do this for me. All my previous female partners had also done in the past. I had been unaware of this as well, as them.

One day Lyn refused to do this. She explained, I needed to be responsible for my own feelings. Therefore, I accepted and began to express my feelings a bit more. Over time, I could identify my feelings more readily.

How many men like me unconsciously have their women carry their emotions for them?

Today, I understand the influence of my childhood. My father numbed his feelings and pain through alcohol. I am grateful I never succumbed to this addiction.

However, I learned from my mother self-sacrifice and care-taking those close to me.

I have since learned to nurture myself first. Although, I find myself still challenged. I tend to take on other people’s energies unaware of my desire to assist them.

 Spiritual and Self-Growth

I recognize a pattern from my father. I swore as a teenager never to drink. Yet gradually over seven years I began drinking. In college I would sit in my apartment on weekends. I would listen to music and drink southern comfort. One day a new meditation practice required no drinking. I quit. I did so for four years. After, I no longer had a craving for alcohol. 

It takes great will power to break such an addictive pattern.

  • Over thirty years, I become more aware of my inner pain and trauma.
  • I studied and applied various awareness and energy healing methods.
  • Through spiritual growth and higher consciousness, I have healed many patterns of pain.
  • Self-growth, overcoming challenges, remains an ongoing journey on this earth plane.

Embracing My Inner Child

  • Most of my life my wounded child wanted to stay angry and rant at the injustices of the world or sink into the powerlessness of the victim
  • I learned with the help of my wife Lyn, a gifted energy healer, how to hold the emotions of my inner child rather than drowning in them or being trapped in anger
  • I learned to embrace my child. By staying present with the feelings, they began to transform into peace
  • I do this more and more now. Now I choose to take charge rather than my inner child

Heal Your Inner Child

If you choose to heal your inner child, Ultimately, what is important to realize is that the heart of self-love lies in loving, healing and reparenting your inner child. Evelyn Lim https://www.evelynlim.com/about-me/

Evelyn Lim, a life coach, writer, NLP practitioner and an Intuitive Consultant describes seven steps:

  1. Understand Your Childhood Programming.
    2. Recognize Repeated Life Patterns.
    3. Acknowledge Your Pain.
    4. Disengage in Self-Judgment.
    5. Embrace The Wounded Child.
    6. Practice Courage.
    7. Free Yourself Through Forgiveness.

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    Michael David Lawrience has been an Energy Healer for over 40 years. Also a Bowenwork Practitioner since 2005. Michael David has decades of practical experience. with Empaths, Highly Sensitive Persons (HSP) and Crystal, Rainbow and Starseed children.

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