Seek First to Understand, Then to Be Understood. Stephen R. Covey, author The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People (men stopping violence)
When a teenage girl or a woman has been validated (listened to actively) over and over again over a period of years, I believe she will be less vulnerable and subject to physical, emotional and mental violence and violation. She will be less likely to enter into or stay in abusive relationships because of her higher self-esteem; the gift you as a father or man have given her from your caring and love to keep her safe and secure.
Men Stopping Violence
Do you, like most men, seek to be understood rather than understand your daughters and women?
What training do you have that enables you to really listen and understand another person?
Like most of us you probably have little or no communication training. You want to stress your point. Did you know 80% of communication lies in nonverbal cues, 15% in tone, and only 5% lies in the actual words? Do you focus only on the words and miss the meaning completely?
Do you listen with the intent on what you will say back? Do you filter everything you hear though your own life experiences and want to share them? For example, I had a similar thing happen to me.
Men How Do You Stop Violence by Learning to Communicate with Your Teenage Daughters and Women
You do this by learning a new way of listening and validating. Everyone yearns to be validated, that someone really sees them.
In the Avatar science fiction movie described as an emotional journey of redemption and revolution the natives, Na’vi, validate each other by saying, I see you. In other words, they say, I feel you, I see the love, your feelings, and your soul.
As a man and or a father you have the opportunity with daughters and women to:
1. Acknowledge strengths.
2. Hold up the mirror of acknowledgement saying at a deeper level, I see and feel you.
3. Awaken awareness of unknown qualities.
4. Build self-esteem and self-empowerment.
5. Build connection and self-respect.
See also Men Stopping Violence: Communicate with Your Daughters & Women Part 3 https://www.emotionalhealthtips.com/men-stopping-violence-3/
See also Men Stopping Violence: Communicate with Your Daughters & Women Part 4 https://www.emotionalhealthtips.com/men-stopping-violence-4/
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Michael David Lawrience is the author of Emotional Health: The Secret from Drama, Trauma, and Pain His book provides ways for improving emotional health, easing pain and stress, healing physical and emotional abuse, and spiritual awakening. See book on Amazon https://www.amazon.com/Emotional-Health-Secret-Freedom-Trauma/dp/0615479170
Michael as a previous Residential and Self-Esteem Coach and Mentor has over 15 years’ experience teaching teen’s self-awareness, self-esteem, and self-reliance. See eBook Self Esteem- A Teen’s Guide for Girls This book is valuable for women also. https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B009L4JLMO
Michael offers Bowen Therapy in person in Sedona, Arizona for easing physical and emotional pain. https://www.emotionalhealthtips.com/bowen-therapy-sedona/
Michael also conducts personalized hiking tours in Sedona for emotional and spiritual breakthroughs.
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