How To Free Yourself Now: Four Agreements Of Spiritual Wisdom
November 2025 Newsletter Update Four Agreements Don Miguel Ruiz Spiritual Wisdom Introduction: The Four Agreements written by Don Miguel Ruiz. It is based on Toltec spiritual wisdom from Mexico before the Aztecs. The Four Agreements: Be impeccable with your word. Don’t take anything personally. Don’t make assumptions. Always do your best. Are you ready to transform your life now? We’re Taught Strict Rules as Children: The Toltec were an ancient society of artists and scientists. They explored, saved and passed on spiritual knowledge from their ancestors. What can these teachings tell us today? They can help us enjoy freedom and peace within. The First Agreement is being Impeccable with Your Word: Social norms impose the language we speak as well as the content of our dreams. Norms are taught to us by parents, schools, religions and other influential forces. We accepted these rules. If we rebelled, we may have been punished. When we accepted the rules, we received more attention from parents and teachers. The rules get lodged deep with us. We become compliant; domesticated. There’s a different way. We can break free by establishing new agreements for ourselves. You can choose being Impeccable with Your Word. You Don’t Need to Take Things Personally: The words you use are powerful and can either liberate or enslave you. Your word lets you communicate and express yourself. It transforms the way you think. Your words create ideas in your mind. They shape your sense of reality and affect the opinions of others. Consider this story. A woman had a daughter whom she loved with all her heart. One day, the woman arrived home, wishing to have some quiet time alone. Yet, her daughter was in a happy mood, boisterously singing. Losing control over herself, the woman yelled at her daughter. “You have a stupid voice! Shut up!” The daughter believed what her mother had said. She made an agreement with herself that her voice was bothersome. She didn’t sing for a long time. The daughter took the experience personally. Words can enslave us. How often have you told yourself you’re not good enough? Each time you do this you’re making an agreement. 3.Don’t Make Assumptions: Instead of making assumptions, ask questions. Have you ever assumed something was wrong with one of your relationships? For instance, the other person failed to say “hi” one time. This is an example of how assumptions create problems. When you make assumptions, you think that your thoughts must be true. This is a major issue as most assumptions have little basis in reality. When the truth becomes clear, you see it has an entirely different meaning. Imagine you’re walking through a city when a beautiful person catches your eye. They shoot you a beaming smile. You might immediately assume that the person likes you. Such assumptions can also cause serious problems in relationships. People often assume that their partners know what they’re thinking. As a result, people believe that their partners will do what they want. Then they get disappointed and angry when they don’t. You may make assumptions about yourself. Maybe you think you can do something. When you fail you feel bad for overestimating yourself. In reality, you might have needed to ask more questions to succeed. Assumptions are damaging. You can replace them with courageous questions instead. If a friend doesn’t greet you, rather than assuming something’s wrong, you might ask, “What’s going on?” That means asking as many questions as you need to get total clarity on the issue. By asking questions, you’ll get closer to the truth rather than feel the desire to assume. Those are the first three agreements. Coming up you’ll learn about the fourth. This will help you put the first three into action. Always Do Your Best, even if it constantly changes: Do you remember your parents or teachers telling you to do your best when you were a kid? Doing your best always depends on the situation, you’re in. Give it all you’ve got. You won’t need to blame or judge yourself. Doing your best changes from day to day. On certain days, your best will be stellar. Other days it might not be so great. Consider how different you are in the morning when you’re full of energy. Compare this to late at night when you’re exhausted after a long day. You must keep this in mind because if you try to go beyond your best at any given moment, you’ll end up depleted and worn out. So, to do your best, do things for their own sake. A great example here is salary. You’ll never do your best if your only motivation is your paycheck. Most people do their job for the money rather than enjoying it. As a result, most people have jobs that feel difficult; joyless. This lack of fulfillment means that people need to distract themselves. On weekends they party, or drink. So, if doing your best means working hard because you love the task at hand, you’ll perform better. Your work will begin to feel effortless. In always doing your best increases the power of all the other agreements. It helps freeing yourself. Break With Your Old Agreements and Find Freedom: Old agreements cause you suffering. Here are three ways to break with them and free yourself. 1.The first relates to the dream you’re living right now. The dream of the first attention. You can start changing your dream and believing whatever you want. You can begin noticing what you learned as a child isn’t the sole truth. Thus, you can alter your dream and create the dream of the second attention. Begin by noticing the fear-based beliefs that cause you unhappiness. Break them apart bit by bit. Replace them with new beliefs like the Four Agreements. 2.The second way to become free corresponds to the Toltec belief. It’s that a parasitic organism in control of your mind. To break free practice forgiveness. This cuts off the parasite’s food supply. 3.The
