How to Transform Emotional Pain: Embrace Your Feelings!
Why do we avoid our feelings? In our Western society, we have been brought up to ignore our feelings and emotional pain. Feelings mean emotional pain. I even see women, who tend to be more in touch with their feelings; habitually push them away when feelings arise in many situations. We feel vulnerable among other humans and think expressing emotional pain or feelings show signs of weakness, particularly for men. Our society conditions us to believe experiencing and showing feelings and emotional pain as unsafe. This encourages suppression and repression. Either we have forgotten what we once felt or we have no knowledge of what trauma lurks in our subconscious. All this would be fine if our subconscious had no power over our everyday success. It, however, does. Unknown to some of us our subconscious beliefs and feelings have more power than our conscious intents. Dr. Bruce Lipton, Biology of Belief, says, The most powerful processor of information is the subconscious mind that runs 80 – 90% of our lives. It is like an autopilot in that it can run our day-to-day life without any input from the conscious mind. For example, we may want to weigh less, yet we have a belief if we weigh less we will attract more partners and have to be more intimate. We may have some sense that we fear intimacy or maybe we have no sense of this. Either way we will be unable to reduce our weight in spite our best intentions and countless weight reduction programs.
