Children of dysfunctional families come to believe they are responsible for their parents’ problems. As a result they develop low self-esteem. Carl Benedict, Counselor
What we learned from our families colors the way we feel about ourselves and our relationships.
Types Of Dysfunctional Family Roles:
- 1 or both parents have addictions like drugs, alcohol, promiscuity, gambling, overworking, or overeating.
- 1 or both parents use physical violence as a means of control. Children live in fear of outbursts.
- 1 or both parents exploit the children to take care of the physical or emotional needs of adults.
- 1 or both parents fail to provide or threaten to withdraw physical, emotional or financial support for their children.
- 1 or both parents exert strong authoritarian control over their children.
As a child, we experienced powerlessness. We no longer need to be a victim of our dysfunctional family who confused us and trampled on our self-esteem because of dysfunctional family roles.
How do we shift from dysfunctional family roles to functional relationship roles and rebuild our self-esteem?
- Change the rules to begin to heal family emotional issues.
- Express without fear.
- Have your feelings and needs accepted.
- Set healthy personal boundaries.
Are you ready to rebuild your self-esteem and thereby your happiness and success in life?
How to Rebuild Your Self-Esteem:
- Addict – Begin feeling the pain. The only way out is through. Heal your codependency, wounded inner child, and the wound in your soul.
- Caretaker – Learn what your needs are. Begin to nurture yourself first. Become aware of your feelings and begin to express them. Set healthy personal boundaries by saying “No.”
- Hero – Overcome fear of rejection and failure by acknowledging and building on your inner strengths. Know perfection by doing your best and learning from mistakes.
- Clown – Develop healthy humor. Forgive your family and especially yourself.
- Scapegoat – Heal the blame and shame you choose to take on for your family. Develop your personal inner power.
- Lost Child – Build your self-esteem by learning to love yourself. Gradually learn to trust yourself and others.
Check out previous article – 6 Secrets to Rebuild Your Self-Esteem: Top 6 Dysfunctional Family Roles Affecting It https://www.emotionalhealthtips.com/2011/11/08/dysfunctional-family-roles
ABOUT THE AUTHOR:
Michael David Lawrience is the author of Emotional Health: The Secret from Drama, Trauma, and Pain His book provides ways for improving emotional health, easing pain and stress, healing physical and emotional abuse, and spiritual awakening.
Michael as a Residential and Self-Esteem Coach and Mentor has over 13 years experience teaching teens self-awareness, self-esteem, and self-reliance. See eBook Self Esteem- A Teen’s Guide for Girls
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