If you feel alone, empty, anxious, depressed, hurt, angry, jealous, sad, fearful, guilty or shamed, you are abandoning yourself.
Dr. Margaret Paul, Ph.D. Psychology
Inner Child Therapy
A feeling of abandonment, as a child, creates our first major wound. This abandonment can out picture as loneliness, loneliness in groups, or feeling unseen by our parents or siblings or peers. This feeling then becomes subconsciously active in our inner child, as well as all of our relationships, tainting them.
Choose to become aware of how your inner child feels by going inside yourself. Do you feel; overwhelmed, out of control, lost, little, lonely or just plain sick and tired? This tells us our inner child needs attention.
Simply take a breath and imagine connecting with that small child within you at any age that comes to you.
Imagine talking to your inner child and asking them:
- What do you feel?
- What do you need?
- What would you like to do?
The minute we have awareness and ask the energy starts to move. For example, just noticing that in this moment we don’t feel safe, we can also be aware of what would help us feel safe and then imagine giving that to ourselves. We take responsibility for our own needs and take actions that support both our and our inner child’s growth.
The wound I mentioned has the gift of connection within it. Hold your inner child and then imagine holding yourself also with tenderness. Honor you pain. Allow the Light of the Divine, in whatever way this comes to you, to shine upon the wound until it is ready to dissolve on its own without you forcing anything. This may take some time, days or weeks.
We tend to feel shame about our wounds and keep them hidden. By connecting with our wounds and allowing Divine Light to shine upon them, healing occurs. Healing emotional abuse also occurs.
All of this strengthens our central core, the foundation of our being. We can imagine this as a pillar of golden light through the center of our body from head to toe.
Cathryn L. Taylor writes in The Inner Child Workbook, The inner child embodies the characteristics of the innocent part of the self… what you do not master in childhood reappears in your adult lives as inappropriate responses to people, places, or things.
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Michael David Lawrience is the author of Emotional Health: The Secret from Drama, Trauma, and Pain His book provides ways for improving emotional health, easing pain and stress, healing physical and emotional abuse, and spiritual awakening. See book on Amazon https://www.amazon.com/Emotional-Health-Secret-Freedom-Trauma-ebook/dp/B004CLYO00
Michael as a previous Residential and Self-Esteem Coach and Mentor has over 15 years’ experience teaching teen’s self-awareness, self-esteem, and self-reliance. See eBook Self Esteem- A Teen’s Guide for Girls This book is valuable for women also. https://www.amazon.com/Self-Esteem-Teens-Guide-Michael-Lawrience-ebook/dp/B009L4JLMO
Michael offers Bowen Therapy in person in Sedona, Arizona for easing physical and emotional pain. See http://emotionalhealthtips.com/bowen-therapy
Michael also conducts personalized hiking tours in Sedona for emotional and spiritual breakthroughs.