Healing Emotional Pain: Embrace Your Emotions

June 16th, 2013

The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched. They must be felt with the heart – Helen Keller

embrace your emotionsMaybe like me you have difficulty feeling your emotions. You may question why you would want to embrace your emotions?

Embrace Your Emotions

What if, you allowed yourself to fully embrace your emotions?

Sri Bhagavan of the Oneness University in India teaches any feeling or sensation experienced fully in the present moment will eventually transform into joy. This includes the most challenging situations or intense emotions.

Robert Tennyson Stevens’ Conscious Language also says that any emotion fully felt will turn into its strength, grief into joy, fear into confidence, and pain into love.

When we stop resisting pain, and surrender, Divine Grace can enter our bodies. Contraction ends and a flow of energy opens, allowing change. I have experienced this.

Balance SurferTo allow this transformation to embrace your emotions involves a mastery of staying in the center of a feeling. It means neither going out of body nor drowning in the feeling.

We can understand the above experience better by seeing a surfer in the curve of a big wave, perfectly balanced on his board. He neither gets tossed up into the air nor does he get submerged under tons of water.

It is impossible to stop fear or pain in our lives. When, however, you learn to experience and fully embrace your emotions , we take charge of them.

When we practice staying present with whatever emotion or pain arises in our bodies and master this, we experience something different, inner stillness.

Sri Bhagavan of the Oneness University calls this experience of inner stillness: bliss; calm; peace. I have felt this peace.

According to Bhagavan with stillness no energy gets lost. Thus, we feel this stillness as calm or peace. We have accepted the reality of our feelings. On the other hand, Bhagavan says when you resist to embrace your emotions this fight uses a lot of energy and we experience pain, suffering, and conflict.

The best way out is always through, said the poet Robert Frost.

embrace your emotionsThe Best Way to Handle/Embrace Your Emotions:

  1. Become aware of them. When we push them away they become stronger.
  2. Accept your thoughts or feelings.
  3. Focus on the sensations in your body, however vague.
  4. Pick one sensation and stay focused on it.
  5. Resist any desire to change what you feel. Allow it to be.
  6. Sit and feel the sensations without doing anything to change them.
  7. If you start to think about the past or future, come back to feeling the sensations in your body. Focus on your breath to help you.
  8. Stay with the sensation until it transforms on its own without you doing anything. This may take for example, 30 minutes, 3 days, 3 weeks, or 3 months. As you have time keep coming back to the sensation, feeling, or issue until it transforms on its own.

Would you like more calm and peace in your life, less stress? Practice the above meditation daily or at least when intense feelings come up.

ABOUT THE AUTHOR

Michael David Lawrience is the author of Emotional Health: The Secret from Drama, Trauma, and Pain  His book provides ways for improving emotional health, easing pain and stress, healing physical and emotional abuse, and spiritual awakening.

Michael as a Residential and Self-Esteem Coach and Mentor has over 13 years experience teaching teens self-awareness, self-esteem, and self-reliance. See eBook Self Esteem- A Teen’s Guide for Girls

Michael offers Bowen Therapy in person in Sedona, Arizona for easing physical and emotional pain. See http://emotionalhealthtips.com/bowen-therapy


 

What people are saying about this...

  1. Janet staying present with emotions and feelings in the moment requires practice. Most of the time our mind takes us out of the feeling into thinking about something in the past or future. When this happens, each time, come back to what you feel in your body. Focusing on your breath also helps to keep you connected to the sensations in your body.

    When we learn to stay present long enough with a feeling then transformation occurs on its own.

  2. Hi Michael – I am very interested in the concept that it is only emotions that are fully felt in the present moment that transform into joy. I hadn’t heard anything quite like that before – so definitely something for me to meditate on

    Thank you

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