Do You Abuse Yourself with Negative Self-Talk?

September 2nd, 2010

Self-Talk

Self-Interview with Michael David Lawrience, author of The Secret for Freedom from Drama, Trauma, and Pain

Part 3

(Conducted by Michael David Lawrience)

Q: Do You Want to Continue to Emotionally Self-Abuse Yourself with Negative Self-Talk?

A: Most of us have a nonstop flow of chatter going on in our heads all of the time, except when we sleep.  This is all we know so we accept it as normal thinking nothing about it.  This chatter would be fine except it consists of many negative thoughts about us.  We believe these 100 % without any questions.  These thoughts have been with us for most of our lives, even as young children or teenagers.  This is our critical self-talk.

I believed at the age of 12 to be “the lowest man on the totem pole.”  In other words, I felt such low self-esteem I considered everyone else in school better than me.  Some reasons may have been my family was poor, my father was a drunk, I wore second hand clothes, and I believed I had less than average intelligence.  This critical self-talk ran through my head or at least in the background during my days at school all the way to high school graduation.
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Attention: How to Develop Positive Self-Talk

March 26th, 2010

Positive Self TalkHow do we develop positive self-talk?

Most of us have a nonstop flow of chatter going on in our heads all of the time, rather than positive self-talk.  This is all we know so we accept it as normal thinking nothing about it.

This chatter would be fine except it consists of many negative thoughts about us. We believe these 100 % without any questions. These thoughts have been with us for most of our lives, even as young children or teenagers. This is our negative self-talk.

I believed at the age of 12 to be “the lowest man on the totem pole.” In other words, I felt such low self-esteem I considered everyone else in school better than me. Some reasons may have been my family was poor, my father was a drunk, I wore second hand clothes, and I believed I had less than average intelligence. This thought ran through my head or at least in the background during my days at school all the way to high school graduation.

No one ever told me I could change my critical thoughts into positive self-talk. Only looking back now do I see the main critical thought patterns, which persisted for a majority of my life. I had no knowledge of the tools to recognize and change thoughts which I now teach teenagers in self-esteem groups.
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