Self-sabotage involves beliefs buried in our subconscious mind, which counter our conscious intentions.
The following 5 tips will assist you in becoming aware of some ways you self-sabotage yourself.
1. Do you tend to focus on what is wrong or missing in your life? Does this attract more of the same?
Focus on all the things that do work. The Law of Attraction says, Where your attention goes, your energy flows.
2. Do you spend a lot of time worrying about or fearing the future?
Focus on solutions and take action when you can. Even small actions can make a difference.
Janie Behr, a life coach, talks about ways we create self-sabotage. Self-sabotage involves beliefs buried in our subconscious mind, which counter our conscious intentions. Janie says, Over reacting to stressful situations is a form of self-sabotage that causes emotional stress. Do you know people who create unnecessary conflicts and emotional drama?
Do you engage in a lot of negative self-talk inside your head? Do you interpret positive events as negative? Do you self-sabotage yourself by creating self-fulfilling prophecies to prove your negative beliefs? You can learn how to change the negative self-talk into positive self-talk.
Self-sabotage is when we say we want something and then go about making sure it doesn’t happen. ~ Alyce P. Cornyn-Selby
I’d like to share with you an interview I had with Michael David Lawrience when I got to ask him about the topic of stopping the roots of self-sabotage.
Anne Lyken-Garner : How Do We Stop the Roots of Self-Sabotage?
Michael: We can start to become aware of our unconscious beliefs through reprogramming methods such as the one explained in Carolyn Ball’s book, Claiming Your Self-Esteem.
We can also use ways to dissolve and release these beliefs once we become aware of them. One way is Byron Katie’s, The Work, which has 4 questions for releasing beliefs which no longer serve us.
The Emotional Freedom Technique – EFT – also has a method for dealing with subconscious objections or yes-buts that may arise to sabotage the positive affirmations used as part of the EFT. Gary Craig, the founder of EFT, calls the yes-buts “tail enders.”
EFT combines tapping certain acupressure points on the body while repeating a specific choice statement to release physical or emotional issues. The method would include the original statement and an antidote to the tail ender. For example, the original choice: “I choose to be successful in my business.” The tail ender: But if I am successful other people will ridicule me the way my father used to.” The antidote: I choose to feel respected even when I am successful.” The final statement: I choose to feel respected even when I am successful in my business.”
Self-sabotage has its roots at a cellular level in our DNA. Many of our beliefs, images, and memories remain unconscious at this level. They may come from the DNA of our parents or from painful or traumatic events we experienced as children.
How can we access and dissolve these self-sabotage patterns at the level of the DNA?
Lyn O’Hara, a radiatory healer, radiates energy from the divine through her heart chakra into the auric field and body of the client. She then asks permission to enter the clients DNA into held patterns of trauma. The trauma then releases without any pain. Lyn further assists by asking questions for the client to gain realizations.
Another way of dissolving the roots of self-sabotage patterns is through the self-healing positions described in The Healing Code by Loyd and Johnson.
See also How Do You Create Subconscious Self-Sabotage?
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Michael David Lawrience is the author of Emotional Health: The Secret from Drama, Trauma, and Pain. His book provides ways for improving emotional health, easing pain and stress, healing physical and emotional abuse, and spiritual awakening. See book on Amazon http://ow.ly/zcTEo
Michael as a previous Residential and Self-Esteem Coach and Mentor has over 15 years’ experience teaching teen’s self-awareness, self-esteem, and self-reliance. See eBook Self Esteem- A Teen’s Guide for Girls http://ow.ly/zcTHa This book is valuable for women also.
Michael offers Bowen Therapy in person in Sedona, Arizona for easing physical and emotional pain. See http://emotionalhealthtips.com/bowen-therapy
Michael also conducts personalized hiking tours in Sedona for emotional and spiritual breakthroughs. http://sedonamysticaltours.com
I’d like to share with you an interview I had with Michael David Lawrience when I got to ask him about the topic of recognizing self-sabotage and the causes of self-sabotage.
Anne Lyken-Garner: How Can We Recognize Our Self-Sabotage Behaviors?
Michael: We all have our ways of perceiving the world from our core beliefs, conscious and unconscious. We create our experiences to confirm the truth of our perceptions. We may have a core belief that we will never succeed at anything we do. So we set up our outcomes to prove that we will never succeed and thereby self-sabotage any possibility of success and we keep creating obstacles to our success on an unconscious level.
If for example we start a new relationship, expecting it to fail like all our previous ones than it probably will and we get to be right. Rather than continuing to create a false paradigm, we could choose to look at our core beliefs and “truths” to assess their degree of truth.