Do You Suffer Symptoms of Codependency Behavior?

September 2nd, 2010

 What are Some Codependency Symptoms?

codependencyIn codependency, a codependent has a compulsive need to control an otherwise out of control life.  This may be true as I experienced an out of control family life because of the unpredictability of my fathers drinking and anger outbursts.  I took control by withdrawing and numbing all my feelings for I knew nothing about setting boundaries.

As an adult, my relationships involved multiple codependent behaviors of which I remained unaware. In these relationships, I avoided expressing any feelings for fear of rejection. The women in my life criticized me for lack of feeling. Their criticism confirmed doubts about me. Did I even have the capacity to love at all?

In addition, I tended to take care of my partners financial needs and I also had poor boundaries as I had no idea where my personal boundaries ended and other persons began.
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12 Steps to Recovery from Codependency Traits – Part 3

March 6th, 2012

Recovery from Codependency

Part 3 continues with the last four codependency traits where Part 2 left off.

I am suggesting a full blown codependency personality separates by 12 degrees maximum from their true inner self or others. With each degree of recovery from codepen codependency dency you become one degree closer to a healthy connection with your inner self and others.

To sum up a codependency personality:

· Puts others needs before their own.

· They deny their own feelings and needs.

· Their self-esteem depends on how well they take care of others.

The 12 core codependency traits come from the work of John Bradshaw: The Family. See the last 4 core codependent traits.

How many degrees of separation do you find yourself in codependency relationships?

9. Enmeshed Boundaries

· Your personal emotional boundaries entangle with another person

· You lack awareness of you own needs e.g. being tired or hungry

· You expect others to know your feelings and needs

· You give up on yourself

· You strive to live up to others expectations

· You need to always be in relationship or else you avoid relationships

Tip for Codependency Recovery: Start to become aware of your feelings and needs. Express your feelings and needs.
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12 Steps to Recovery from Codependency Traits – Part 2

February 27th, 2012

Recovery from Codependency Traits

I am suggesting a full blown codependency personality separates by 12 degrees maximum from their true inner self or others. With each degree of recovery from codependency you become one degree closer to a healthy connection with your inner self and others.

Part 2  codependencycontinues where Part 1 left off.

To sum up a codependency personality:

· Puts others needs before their own.

· They deny their own feelings and needs.

· Their self-esteem depends on how well they take care of others.

The 12 core codependency traits come from the work of John Bradshaw: The Family.

How many degrees of separation do you find yourself in codependent relationships?

See another 4 core codependency traits.

5. Do you tolerate increasing intolerable behavior?

· Are you growing more addicted to something or someone?

· Do you continue staying in an abusive relationship?

· Are you becoming physically or emotionally sick because of an unhealthy relationship?

Tip for Codependency Recovery: Begin setting personal boundaries by saying No. Talk to friends. You may at some point have to gain enough courage to leave a relationship, if it doesn’t improve.
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12 Best Steps for Recovery from Codependency Traits – Part 1

February 20th, 2012

codependency traits recovery Six degrees of separation means everyone remains about six steps away, by way of introduction, from any other person on Earth. 12 degrees of separation refers to the maximum separation. Would you like to feel a closer connection to people? I am applying this concept of 12 degrees of separation to codependency personality traits.

A full blown codependency personality separates by 12 degrees maximum from their true inner self or others.

With each degree of recovery from codependency you become one degree closer to a healthy connection with your inner self and others. My experience of recovery takes months and years. Everything now, however, accelerates much faster so your recovery may be much quicker.
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Codependency Behavior: Is It Ruining Your Life 2?

June 9th, 2011

Codependency In Codependent Behavior – Part 1, http://ow.ly/5gx6W I gave you a brief summary of my personal challenge with codependency behavior.

Five main areas of codependency behavior:

1. Inability to recognize our needs.

2. Lack of taking care of ourselves, fulfilling our own needs.

3. Inability to know how we feel.

4. Lack of skill or fear of expressing our feelings.

5. Poor personal boundaries. Fear of standing up and saying “No.”

I will soon talk about the behavior of some Indian men known as “Mama’s Boy. I address this in reference to Indian women and how they might better handle it to achieve better emotional health for themselves. This understanding of men’s behavior, however, can assist women of any culture.
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Codependent Behavior: Is It Ruining Your Life?

June 8th, 2011

Codependent Although this article is written for the East Indian culture, the codependent behavior principles apply to all cultures.

I am a white male born in Canada and now living in the United States for half of my life. I only recognized my codependent behavior 2/3’s of the way through life. Codependency had been running and ruining my life for all that time without me knowing. It took another 20 years overcoming codependent behavior.

Although I have visited India two times for spiritual development, I have little understanding of how codependent behavior affects Indian men or women. I apologize for this; however, the areas of codependency remain the same regardless of our culture. Therefore take what I say and apply it to your situation where you can. I am lead, however, to understand that some Indian men have behavior described as the “Mama’s Boy.” I will talk about that later.

I now give you a brief summary of my personal challenge with codependent behavior.
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How Can Codependency Recovery Reduce Your Suffering?

March 29th, 2010

Codependency Behaviors

CodependencyI believed I developed codependency behaviors to cope with my fathers drinking, which resulted in constant fighting between my father and mother for twenty years until they divorced. I never felt safe to express my thoughts and feelings so I retreated inward and became invisible, the lost child. I wore a stoic stone face as a mask as if I were okay. My heart also became as numb as a stone.

It has been said that a persona with codependency has a compulsive need to control an otherwise out of control life. This may be true as I experienced an out of control family life because of the unpredictability of my father’s drinking and anger outbursts. I took control by withdrawing and numbing all my feelings. I hid my thoughts even from my mother who assumed I was okay because I never expressed anything.
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