Men Stopping Violence: Communicate With Your Daughters & Women Part 3

December 16th, 2014

Seek First to Understand, Then to Be Understood. Stephen R. Covey, author The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People

When a teenage girl or a woman has been validated (listened to actively) over and over again over a period of years, I believe she will be less vulnerable and subject to physical, emotional and mental violence and violation. She will be less likely to enter into or stay in abusive relationships because of her higher self-esteem; the gift you as a father or man have given her from your caring and love to keep her safe and secure.

Communicate With Your Teenage Daughters and Women

Men Stopping Violence

men stopping violenceMen stopping violence how will you succeed? Do you, like most men, seek to be understood rather than understand your daughters and women?

What training do you have that enables you to really listen and understand another person?

Like most of us you probably have little or no communication training. You want to stress your point. Did you know 80% of communication lies in nonverbal cues, 15% in tone, and only 5% lies in the actual words? Do you focus only on the words and miss the meaning completely?

Do you listen with the intent on what you will say back? Do you filter everything you hear though your own life experiences and want to share them? For example, I had a similar thing happen to me.

Men Do You Tend to Communicate By:

1. Agreeing or disagreeing
2. Asking probing questions – interrogating
3. Giving advice or wanting to fix the problem
4. Talking about your own experiences