Men Stopping Violence: Active Listening/Validation – Part 2

February 22nd, 2013

An essential part of true listening is the discipline of bracketing, the temporary giving up or setting aside of one’s own prejudices, frames of reference and desires so as to experience as far as possible the speaker’s world from the inside, step inside his or her shoes. M. Scott Peck, MD

Did you know 1 in 3 women and girls – over 2 billion – on the planet will be raped or beaten in their lifetime, according to

1 billion rising

This article is an update on the work of One Billion Rising as well as V-Day, global movements to end violence against women and girls. I believe one major way involves a paradigm shift in the way we as men listen, communicate and validate the inner essence and self-esteem of women and girls.


Men Stopping Violence: Communicate With Daughters and Women

February 9th, 2013

Seek First to Understand, Then to Be Understood. Stephen R. Covey, author The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People

Men Stopping Violence: Communicate With Your Teenage Daughters and Women

Men Stopping Violence: Do you, like most men, seek to be understood rather than understand your daughters and women?

What training do you have that enables you to really listen and understand another person?

Like most of us you probably have little or no communication training. You want to stress your point. Did you know 80% of communication lies in nonverbal cues, 15% in tone, and only 5% lies in the actual words? Do you focus only on the words and miss the meaning completely?

Do you listen with the intent on what you will say back? Do you filter everything you hear though your own life experiences and want to share them? For example, I had a similar thing happen to me.