As long as you are unable to access the power of the Now, every emotional pain that you experience leaves behind a residue of pain that lives on in you. Eckhart Tolle
Do you know about your Pain Body? Do you know you can do something to ease your chronic pain?Our Pain Body includes the residue within us of all our past pain, including our childhood pain.
According to Eckhart Tolle, The Power of Now, pain arises when we resist the present moment. Accept what is as it occurs, rather than wanting it to go away.Recognize the pain when it occurs. Feel it in your body as heaviness, anger or some other emotion, or as physical discomfort. You then become a witness to what happens in your thoughts or your body. When you watch your Pain Body, it is more difficult for it to feed on your negative thoughts.
As pain arises, be a witnessing presence. Oh, there is my Pain Body. I feel heaviness in my abdomen. I feel intense anger. Thus, you allow your pain to be rather than fighting and attempting to get rid of it. Bring acceptance to your pain. Allow, watch, and feel it. Bring your awareness to it. Your silent state of awareness meets your Pain Body and it feeds less on your negative thoughts of unhappiness or other people’s desire for you to react or get angry.
Become aware of your Pain Body as soon as it arises. Notice it, stay alert, and watch it. Then a transmutation of your pain can begin. It will begin to lose its energy charge and some of the trapped pain within you can start to release. You may notice less contraction, more flow or aliveness. The degree of emotional drama in your life decreases.In relationships, if one or both partners stay present, rather than reacting to a situation, than some of the pain can begin to dissolve.
With losses through death or relationships – surrender to the pain. That is accepting the pain rather than running away from it. Allow the emptiness to be. You may discover, at some time, a fullness or peace which lies underneath the pain.The same method can be used for women when their menses occur. When the pain arises, become present and conscious. Watch the pain and allow it to be. Be compassionate towards the pain. Gently embrace the pain and hold it. The pain will lessen, when you accept it without wanting to change it.
You may have to continue the holding over a number of days or even weeks as the pain arises in your awareness each day.As we identify and accept our pain breathing into our abdomen and expanding it out on the in breath and contracting in on the out breath assists in disengaging our minds to some degree, as well as bringing more oxygen into our bodies.
Ponder This:When you create a problem, you create pain. All it takes is a simple choice, a simple decision: no matter what happens I will create no more pain for myself. -Eckhart TolleYou now have a way to transform your Pain Body into a friend. See also Living the Liberated Life and Dealing with the Pain Body, CD’s by -Eckhart Tolle.
About the Author
Michael David Lawrience is the author of Emotional Health: The Secret from Drama, Trauma, and Pain His book provides ways for improving emotional health, easing pain and stress, healing physical and emotional abuse, and spiritual awakening. http://ow.ly/zcTEo
Michael as a Residential and Self-Esteem Coach and Mentor has over 15 years’ experience teaching teen’s self-awareness, self-esteem, and self-reliance. See eBook Self Esteem- A Teen’s Guide for Girlshttp://ow.ly/zcTHa
If you feel alone, empty, anxious, depressed, hurt, angry, jealous, sad, fearful, guilty or shamed, you are abandoning yourself.
Dr. Margaret Paul, Ph.D. Psychology
Inner Child Therapy
A feeling of abandonment, as a child, creates our first major wound. This abandonment can out picture as loneliness, loneliness in groups, or feeling unseen by our parents or siblings or peers. This feeling then becomes subconsciously active in our inner child, as well as all of our relationships, tainting them.
Choose to become aware of how your inner child feels by going inside yourself. Do you feel; overwhelmed, out of control, lost, little, lonely or just plain sick and tired? This tells us our inner child needs attention.
Simply take a breath and imagine connecting with that small child within you at any age that comes to you.
Imagine talking to your inner child and asking them:
Anne Lyken-Garner, a freelance writer, writes mainly on subjects of family, relationships, frugal living and lifestyle. Anne authored the inspirational memoir, Sunday’s Child.
Can we love ourselves enough to create a better life than our childhood upbringing?
Ponder on the following by Anne.
Like a lot of families from South America, mine is scattered all over the world. And like many families whose members live in different places, we stay informed with what’s going on in each other’s lives by updates and pictures posted on Facebook.
I live in England and my father, in Canada. I’ve never really had a relationship with him but when he eventually joined Facebook we became ‘friends’ there. I have a half-sister living in Guyana and one day I noticed she’d posted quite a disturbing status update on the site. I was concerned not because of what she said, but because it determined her very fragile state of mind. This particular sister has had a pretty tough life and has been extremely affected by our Father’s misinformed idea of ‘parenting’.
Of course, Facebook is not the forum through which someone should express their innermost feelings. I absolutely believe this. However, sometimes when people believe they have no one to talk to, they feel a little lighter unburdening their souls onto whomever may be listening. Social networks such as Facebook seem to be popular avenues for this sort of unburdening.
My sister left a short message (to paraphrase) saying that ‘people’ should take care of their own kids instead of leaving messages for and debating about politics and religion on Facebook; giving more valuable time to strangers than they give to their own offspring. I saw this message, knew who it was directed to and ‘liked’ it. The next day my father, after having (obviously) seen the status update, ‘unfriended’ my sister for posting it, and me, for liking it. In doing so, he’d proven my sister right. Not concerned with how his own children felt (whether rightly or wrongly) he’d proven that he had more time and value for strangers than he did for them. (more…)
Life is a good teacher and a good friend. Things are always in transition, if we could only realize it. To stay with that shakiness – to stay with a broken heart, with a rumbling stomach, with the feeling of hopelessness and wanting to get revenge – that is the path of true awakening.Pema Chödrön
What are the qualities we can develop which will assist with spiritual awakening/enlightenment into connection with all life? I described qualities 11 – 15 in a previous article http://ow.ly/d4eqJ
The following describe qualities 16 – 21 to cultivate for spiritual awakening.
Spiritual Awakening 16. Surrender – Make all the effort you can on your path of awakening then surrender. Can you realize when there is nothing more you can do? Can you trust and surrender completely?
When the moment is ripe, it happens. It is not your doing — it is a grace; it comes from god. Osho, Spiritual Teacher and Author When you live in surrender, something comes through you into the world of duality that is not of this world. – Eckhart Tolle
Spiritual Awakening 17. Gratitude – Can you find the perfection of your life? Perhaps you want your life to be different? Do you realize this leaves no room for gratitude? Spontaneous gratitude indicates a sign of awakening.
Every day is my best day; this is my life; I am not going to have this moment again.– Bernie Siegel, Pediatric Surgeon and Author, Love, Medicine and Miracles
Individual transformation would bring about a global transformation. When we say this, we do not mean the world is going to change. What we are saying is people are going to change as individuals inwardly. Amma Bhagavan
What are the qualities we can develop which will assist with spiritual awakening into connection with all life?
I described qualities 1 – 5 in a previous article 21 Qualities to Cultivate for Spiritual Awakeninghttp://ow.ly/d40qr
The following describe qualities 6 – 10 to cultivate for spiritual awakening. I will give the remaining qualities in subsequent articles.
Spiritual Awakening 6. Inner Integrity – Practice being honest with yourself. Lack of integrity increases separation between us and others. It increases separation from our authentic inner self. It increases our suffering.
Inner integrity is to see what is going on inside you without the mind justifying things.– Sri Amma Bhagavan