March 31st, 2012 March 25th, 2012
A subpersonality consists of a part of ourselves, a sub self. Each differs from all the others. We could think of them as a number of separate small “I’s.” Each of our subpersonalities has a unique separate identity which we become aware of.
What subpersonalities live within you?
Our critical inner self differs from our caretaker self which differs from the powerless childlike self. We, however, remain conscious when some of our sub selves take us over and run our lives for a brief period. Afterwards, we come back to a sense of our main personality identity.
There exist, however, some of our subpersonalities which remain unconscious to us and also dysfunctional i.e. unhealthy. All our subpersonalities rob us of power, life force, and happiness.
If we choose, we can learn how to identify, dissolve and heal, and also to integrate our subpersonalities into a more healthy main identity.
March 20th, 2012
We create subpersonalities to handle trauma in childhood. Parts of our identity fragment – split off. When a situation or person emotionally triggers us, we react emotionally as the trauma reemerges. Then a subpersonality takes charge and runs our life.
Have you ever felt a childlike vulnerability or experienced a critical voice dominating your thoughts? Do you have a pattern which takes over your life like being an over achiever, a caretaker, a rebel or feeling insecure? Welcome to some of your subpersonalities.
Many different sub selves/subpersonalities live within each of us. Each has its own feelings, moods, and needs. They form at different ages as a result of childhood trauma to protect us. We all know people who have characteristic moods and patterns that keep recurring over and over. These patterns cut off healthy communication and prevent conflict resolution in relationships.
Each subpersonality diminishes our true identify – our inner center of being, purpose, and strength – beyond any outer images or subpersonalities.
March 12th, 2012
What are Sub-personalities?
Many different selves/sub-personalities live within each of us. Each has its own feelings and thoughts. They form at different ages as a result of life experiences to protect us. You may have experienced the people pleaser, the wounded inner child, or the critic that limits your finances. These represent a few examples of sub-personalities.
Sub-personalities act as a range of behaviors and feelings which work outside our consciousness and even against our conscious intentions. Some relate to different roles in our lives, some as a result of traumas from childhood. Roberto Assagioli -Psychosynthesis says that we can mold them into a higher unity by recognizing rather than identifying with them.
Our mind, also, has great power as a sub-personality so describing sub-personalities remains a challenge.
I give you the following as a daily meditation practice to begin identifying and dissolving sub-personalities on your own.
If you have little time during the day, practice it at night before you go to sleep. The energy can then continue as you sleep.
Connect with each chakra starting with your 1st chakra and chant I am God in the Body as you breathe into that chakra.
March 6th, 2012
What are Subpersonalities?
Have you ever felt a childlike vulnerability or experienced a critical voice inside of you which dominated your consciousness? Welcome to some of your subpersonalities.
Many different selves/subpersonalities live within each of us. Each has its own feelings and thoughts. They form at different ages as a result of life experiences to protect us. You may have experienced the people pleaser, the wounded inner child, or the critic at times as some examples of subpersonalities.
Do you want to find ways of working with your subpersonalities?
For two-thirds of my life I believed something to be inherently wrong with me. In early 2012, I experienced a healing of a major subpersonality with the assistance of a gifted Core Energetic Healer, Lyn O’Hara. She facilitated the identification and integration of the subpersonality.
At the beginning of the session I felt tension in my chest. Lyn asked, Where did the subpersonality enter my body?
At first I had no clue. Then I got a sense of it being the first chakra, in the gonads. In a male power enters this area. Depression and a feeling of powerlessness had pervaded most of my life. Under the depression lurked the feeling of powerlessness, being a victim, having no choice, and rage at the injustices in the Western world.
Recovery from Codependency
Part 3 continues with the last four codependency traits where Part 2 left off.
I am suggesting a full blown codependency personality separates by 12 degrees maximum from their true inner self or others. With each degree of recovery from codependency you become one degree closer to a healthy connection with your inner self and others.
To sum up a codependency personality:
· Puts others needs before their own.
· They deny their own feelings and needs.
· Their self-esteem depends on how well they take care of others.
The 12 core codependency traits come from the work of John Bradshaw: The Family. See the last 4 core codependent traits.
How many degrees of separation do you find yourself in codependency relationships?
9. Enmeshed Boundaries
· Your personal emotional boundaries entangle with another person
· You lack awareness of you own needs e.g. being tired or hungry
· You expect others to know your feelings and needs
· You give up on yourself
· You strive to live up to others expectations
· You need to always be in relationship or else you avoid relationships
Tip for Codependency Recovery: Start to become aware of your feelings and needs. Express your feelings and needs.