Do You Suffer Symptoms of Codependency Behavior?

September 2nd, 2010

 What are Some Codependency Symptoms?

codependencyIn codependency, a codependent has a compulsive need to control an otherwise out of control life.  This may be true as I experienced an out of control family life because of the unpredictability of my fathers drinking and anger outbursts.  I took control by withdrawing and numbing all my feelings for I knew nothing about setting boundaries.

As an adult, my relationships involved multiple codependent behaviors of which I remained unaware. In these relationships, I avoided expressing any feelings for fear of rejection. The women in my life criticized me for lack of feeling. Their criticism confirmed doubts about me. Did I even have the capacity to love at all?

In addition, I tended to take care of my partners financial needs and I also had poor boundaries as I had no idea where my personal boundaries ended and other persons began.

Healing Emotional Pain: The Secret for Freedom from Drama, Trauma, and Pain

May 15th, 2010

Healing Emotional Pain

Emotional Health: The Secret for Freedom from Drama, Trauma, & Pain. AMAZON SOFTCOVER Buy Book Now! Click Link

How can we have less pain and suffering in our lives? Is it by avoiding or by embracing our feelings?

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Healing Emotional Pain

 Healing Emotional Pain: My book “Emotional Health: The Secret for Freedom from Drama, Trauma, and Pain” is an owners manual describing practical methods to release your physical pain and for healing emotional pain, suffering, and emotional distress. This book shows you how to embrace your feelings rather than continually avoiding them. This skill once mastered brings us relief from suffering, for instance feeling empowered rather than victimized. The book shows you how to become more aware of your critical, negative self-talk and how to change it to have more success and happiness rather than having your unconscious sabotage you. This book shows you how get in touch with your wounded inner child and begin healing that emotional part of you that in the past ran your life with repeating patterns of drama and trauma.

Healing Emotional Pain

This book shows you how to recognize your codependent patterns in abusive relationships and how to begin recovery by becoming aware of your needs and feelings and expressing them and also by practicing setting healthy personal boundaries.

Healing Emotional Pain

Finally, this book shows you how to recognize your unconscious shadow – the parts of ourselves which we dislike – which healed reveal new strengths and creative abilities.

Other books in my genre of health/mind/body explore one area of improving awareness and releasing pain and suffering to improve your physical/emotional health. I, however, give you five areas with stories, techniques, and tips for greater happiness and success and healing emotional pain.

Freedom from suffering and trauma takes you on a journey through the lives of over thirteen people who have endured years of physical and emotional suffering. They describe how to release trapped emotions such as anger, depression, and grief from the physical body, as well as chronic physical pain. People also describe  healing emotional pain of deep-seated wounds from sexual and mental abuse, as they encounter a growing empowerment for the first time in their lives.

Through reading and using the methods in this book your emotional health will improve, you will gain greater awareness of your emotions and how they affect your thoughts and behaviors. You will learn more about your strengths, as well as your weaknesses and how to turn them into strengths. You will increase your levels of self-esteem and confidence.

You will gain skill in taking charge and managing your emotions in healthier ways. Most important, you will have greater choices to be proactive rather than reactive as you did in the past and suffered at the mercy of emotional dramas. In addition, you gain the ability, as well as understanding to express your feelings and needs easier. You will also have and maintain healthier relationships with better communication, work with less conflict with others, and manage your own conflicts easier as well, as healing emotional pain.

My purpose is to inspire you in healing emotional pain and increasing your self-awareness and happiness.

eBook Part 1 & 2 on Amazon Kindle

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 Part 1 Overview – Improving emotional health, easing pain, healing ourselves, healing physical/emotional abuse and healing emotional pain , facing our fears, & stabilizing our minds.

Part 2 Overview – Empowerment from codependency, caring for ourselves, healing physical pain as well as healing emotional pain, causes behind physical pain, & healing sabotage of our success.

Part 3 Overview – Making conscious choices, path of the heart, paths of service, global paradigm shift, & spiritual awakening.

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Michael David Lawrience is the author of Emotional Health: The Secret from Drama, Trauma, and Pain His book provides ways for improving emotional health, easing pain and stress, healing physical and emotional abuse, healing emotional pain and spiritual awakening. See book on Amazon

Michael as a previous Residential and Self-Esteem Coach and Mentor has over 15 years’ experience teaching teen’s self-awareness, self-esteem, and self-reliance. See eBook Self Esteem- A Teen’s Guide for Girls This book is valuable for women also.

Michael offers Bowen Therapy in person in Sedona, Arizona for easing physical and healing emotional pain. See

Michael also conducts personalized hiking tours in Sedona for emotional and spiritual breakthroughs.


How to Unlock Emotional Suffering into Divine Grace

February 25th, 2010

Divine GraceTo receive divine grace involves the surrender of our minds, fears, and physical and mental suffering of what we believe to be reality or truth to divine grace in whatever form it comes.

Creation is light and shadows both . . . Without suffering he (man) scarcely cares to recall he has forsaken his eternal home. Pain is a prod to remembrance. The way to escape is through wisdom. Yogananda, Autobiography of a Yogi

Yogananda, an Indian yogi, introduced the Western world to meditation and Kriya yoga for self-realization.

In his commentary on The Bhagavad Gita, the Hindu Bible, Yogananda explains the way to achieve liberation, which also means freedom from suffering. Yogananda talks about freedom in a spiritual way. I will interpret the same three methods as a way to overcome emotional suffering and emotional pain and receive divine grace, finally.

Twin Flame: Introducing How to Know 6 Twin Flame Stages

February 19th, 2016

Twin Flame Stages

A Twin Flame experiences a strong spiritual attraction. Twin Flames have a main purpose of assisting humanity shift their consciousness.

Twin Flames face many obstacles in their relationship to heal all their personal emotional baggage.

Twin Flame Stage 1: Preparation

twin flameI had four major relationships in my 30’s. I had few relationship skills as a result of being codependent and sorely lacking in knowing how to express my emotions. These relationships ended painfully.

Yes, as karmic soul mate relationships, in spite of the pain, I progressed in my personal growth. With the ending of the fourth relationship, however, I decided because of the pain I no longer wanted a relationship for the rest of my life. I believed myself incapable of loving.

So unlike these who seek a Twin Fame, I had never heard of this type of relationship. Neither my personality or my soul had any yearning to find the perfect love as described for some in Twin Flame stage 1.

Twin Flame Stage 2: Glimpse Heaven on Earth

I met my Twin Flame, Lyn, after living in Los Angeles for 15 years and then returning to Canada the country of my birth. When I first met her in Toronto Ontario to teach a weekend healing seminar before returning to Los Angeles, I felt no attraction.

In a group of 30 strangers, Lyn recognized me right away once I brought the healing energy through me. She said nothing to me at the time. She waited to see if I would recognize her.

Lyn, like me, knew nothing about Twin Flames. She like me had also given up on relationships as they turned out to be so unsatisfying.

Before coming to Toronto, I had experienced a dark night of the soul for a number of months and felt wrung out and bedraggled. Lyn, however, told me later that when I turned on the healing energy I “lit” up. She knew me right away. She went home and told her dad, “I met the man I am going to marry.”

With the overwhelming success of the first healing seminar, two months later I returned to teach a second healing energy seminar. At the end the two days, Lyn and I hugged.

I felt a sense of expanding into the Universe and coming home in her arms; two souls recognizing their connection and completeness.

What Unique Inner Subpersonalities Challenge Your Happiness?

September 19th, 2015

The subpersonality of the Sage, Warrior and Nurturer represent the three stages of linear change: Transfiguration, transformation and transmutation. The average person goes through these stages again and again … But some portions of the insights are not gained during each stage. Thus, there are unevolved parts of us that fall behind; stay immature. Almine, Mystic and Visionary

What are Subpersonalities?

subpersonalities Subpersonalities originally formed to protect us. If we find them triggered often, then they also hinder our emotional and spiritual growth or just finding joy in our lives.

A simple way to explain subpersonalities – do you still experience different critical self-talk in your head? These voices indicate unhealed trauma or unresolved conflicts within us.

Subpersonalities act as a range of behaviors and feelings which work outside our consciousness and even against our conscious intentions. Some relate to different roles in our lives, some as a result of traumas from childhood.

Healing our subpersonalities involves balancing and then transcending them.

The following is a brief summary of the teachings of Almine, Mystic & Visionary on our subpersonalities which include our inner child, nurturer, sage and warrior.

I like Almine’s approach in contrast to known psychological methods to subpersonalities, as she sees healing them as a way to greater spiritual growth.


Emotions and Feelings: What is the Difference?

September 6th, 2015

Emotions and Feelings: What is the Difference?

While it takes around 300 milliseconds for you to become aware of a disturbing event, the amygdalae react to it within 20 milliseconds! Sadly, the knee-jerk responses of these organs cause you to overreact to the world around you.

emotionsFirst of all, thoughts, conscious or subconscious, trigger emotions. We could look at emotions in another way as intense thought or e-motion – energy in motion.

Consider emotions as psychological and related to the mind.

Feelings, on the other hand, can be either psychological or physiological. For Example:
Psychological: a feeling of calmness, happiness or peace.
Physiological: A feeling of hunger, thirst or tiredness.

Emotions and Feelings: What is the Difference?

People often use the terms emotions and feelings to mean the same. Having feelings often translates into having an emotional experience. This creates confusion.

Emotions occur as the brains reaction to an event, internal or external. For example, if you see someone you love your brain releases hormones like dopamine and oxytocin. If for instance, you experience a win which makes you feel good then your brain releases adrenaline and dopamine.

On a different note, in situations of fear or stress cortisol floods our brain. We want to protect ourselves and go into responses of fight, flight, freeze (shut down) or agree with someone to appease them.

Emotions: In summary, our brain, releases specific hormones which activate specific emotions.

Feeling: Next when the hormones hit our blood stream our body and organs react and we feel our heart beating faster or our breathing changes etc. We feel more energy – excitement or less energy – a drain of energy – fatigue. Think of feelings as the awareness of sensations in your body triggered by an emotional event.

What is an Emotion?

First an emotion occurs then we feel the emotion through physical sensations in our bodies.

emotionsEmotions are reactions to outer circumstances. Emotions are not caused by someone else, but by the thoughts you think and judgements you hold true: My partner loves me (good); my partner does not love me (bad).

Emotions originate in the part of the brain known as the amygdala or emotional brain.

Emotions of anger and fear assisted us, originally at the dawn of humanity, to survive threats of danger. The amygdala responds to internal or external danger signals.

These emotional reactions have been coded into our DNA. We no longer have saber tooth tigers chasing us instead we have bosses triggering ancient age anger and fear and our bodies respond in similar patterns of fight or flight.

Emotion from Latin “emovere” means to agitate or move. Emotion from Old French “emouvir” refers to stir up.

What is a Feeling?

Feelings follow emotions. Feelings result as reactions to emotions based on previous beliefs and experiences like for example: I am worthy of love; I am unworthy of love.

Think of feelings as the awareness of sensations in your body triggered by an emotional event.

Examples of feeling sensations in the body: Contraction and Expansion, Hot and Cold, Pressure, Lightness and Heaviness, Hardness and Softness, Tingling, Sharp pains, or Numbness.

Body sensations may be pleasant, or unpleasant such as the warmth of love or the pain of guilt.

Feeling derived from Old English “felan” – to touch or have a sensory experience.

Emotions and Feelings: What is the Difference?

  • Happiness: is a feeling.
  • Joy: is an emotion.
  • Worry: is a feeling.
  • Fear: is an emotion.
  • Contentment: is a feeling.
  • Enthusiasm: is an emotion.
  • Bitterness: is a feeling.
  • Anger: is an emotion.
  • Love: is a feeling.
  • Lust: is an emotion.
  • Depression: is a feeling.
  • Sadness: is an emotion.

Additional Information:

AmygdalaAmygdala consist two small almond-shaped masses as part of the limbic system and located in the temporal lobes of the brain. Amygdala also connected with the hypothalamus and the hippocampus.

The hypothalamus regulates metabolism etc., the pituitary and is also involved in feeling and perceiving something as rewarding: For example; love as a good and worth obtaining more.

The hippocampus attaches memories to the emotions and senses associated with them. For instance: a memory of happiness in nature and link it with the smell of the wild roses.

About Michael:

Michael David Lawrience is the author of Emotional Health: The Secret from Drama, Trauma, and Pain Part 3 of the book describes making conscious choices, path of the heart, paths of service, global paradigm shift, and spiritual awakening.

Michael as a Residential and Self-Esteem Coach and Mentor has over 15 years’ experience teaching teen’s self-awareness, self-esteem, and self-reliance. See eBook

Michael offers Bowen Therapy in person in Sedona, Arizona for easing physical and emotional pain.

Michael also conducts personalized hiking tours in Sedona for emotional and spiritual breakthroughs.



How to Love a 5th Dimensional Consciousness Shift

May 29th, 2015

5th dimensional consciousnessAscension emerges when all of humanity has the opportunity to experience spiritual evolution. That time is now for a 5th dimensional consciousness shift!

You can choose to align with your own personal Divine Being i.e.; Allah, Christ, Yahweh, Archangel Michael etc. You quicken your own Ascension by raising the energy/vibration of what you daily think, feel and act.

The following may work for you as a daily statement keeping your focus positive when negative feelings or thoughts arise. Reality governs my every thought. Truth be the Master of my Life.

In 3rd dimensional consciousness, we bounce back and forth between polarities or opposites such as anger and victim; happiness and sadness; fear and peace; judgment and acceptance etc.
We desire to avoid feeling the more challenging emotions while wanting to experience only the pleasant ones.

As our spiritual journey continues we travel through 4th dimensional consciousness. Do you find yourself swinging back and forth between opposites? You may find yourself eventually in the middle or center point of the polarities. Once you settle into this middle point or stillpoint you may experience calm or peace. If so then this is 4th dimensional consciousness.

Women How to Unlock Your Unique Warrioress Feminine Archetype

April 14th, 2015

What is a Feminine Archetype?

Archetypes are psychological and emotional qualities. A Warrioress Feminine Archetype exhibits the best and highest expression of these energies in a woman. A Warrioress Feminine Archetype stands and fights for the truth.

Warrioress Feminine Archetype Warrioress Feminine Archetype:

  • Assertive
  • Athletic
  • Completes Tasks
  • Courageous
  • Maintains Good Personal Boundaries
  • Protects the Innocent and the inner child

Now that you recognize your Warrioress Feminine Archetype would you like to develop more in that Archetype?

Authors Interview Helpful Facts – Secret for Freedom from Drama and Trauma

February 5th, 2015

BookBuzzr Interview Emotional Health: The Secret for Freedom from Drama, Trauma and Pain by Michael Lawrience

Authors Interview

authors interview BookBuzzr 1. In this Authors Interview could you tell us a little bit about yourself?

Michael is an Author and writer, a Holistic Health Practitioner, a personal growth seminar leader, as well as having been a Self-Esteem Coach and Mentor for teen girls.

He has dedicated his life discovering and healing himself and others emotionally, mentally and spiritually.

He has over 40 years’ experience as an Energy Healer with a B.A in Sacred Healing. As a certified Bowenwork Practitioner since 2005, he stimulates the body to heal itself of physical, emotional pain and trauma.

BookBuzzr 2. In this Authors Interview describe your book Emotional Health: The Secret for Freedom from Drama, Trauma, and Pain in 30 words or less?

Emotional Health provides stories of people who healed their emotional suffering by healing physical and emotional abuse, improving emotional health, reducing pain, recovering from codependency and also spiritual awakening.

BookBuzzr 3. In this Authors Interview what was the hardest part of writing your book?

Writing for two years straight 5 days a week with no previous writing skills or training and no internet in the mid 90’s to do any research. Leaving the book for about 10 years and then basically scrapping over half the book when I looked at it again. I spent a year interviewing people about their experiences and another year doing rewrite after rewrite after rewrite. Rewrites pose the hardest part of writing.

Men Stopping Violence: Communicate With Your Daughters & Women Part 5

January 16th, 2015

Seek First to Understand, Then to Be Understood. Stephen R. Covey, author The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People

When a teenage girl or a woman has been validated (listened to actively) over and over again over a period of years, I believe she will be less vulnerable and subject to physical, emotional and mental violence and violation. She will be less likely to enter into or stay in abusive relationships because of her higher self-esteem; the gift you as a father or man have given her from your caring and love to keep her safe and secure.

Men Stopping Violence

men stopping violenceDo you, like most men, seek to be understood rather than understand your daughters and women?

What training do you have that enables you to really listen and understand another person?

Like most of us you probably have little or no communication training. You want to stress your point. Did you know 80% of communication lies in nonverbal cues, 15% in tone, and only 5% lies in the actual words? Do you focus only on the words and miss the meaning completely?

Do you listen with the intent on what you will say back? Do you filter everything you hear though your own life experiences and want to share them? For example, I had a similar thing happen to me.